ADDICTIONS EFFECT ON FAMILIES

I wanted to write about this very important subject. When I begin to work with a family, I immediately see the painful and damaging effects their loved one’s addiction is having on them. Every member of that family is negatively impacted in one way or another. They have become sickened and often they are suffering even more than the addict or alcoholic themselves. I say this for the following reasons. First, the addicted or alcoholic loved one is almost always incapable of seeing the destruction they are causing. They honestly do not see “what the big deal is”. Delusion and denial are just two of the classic symptoms of addiction. Second, their addicted loved one has an “escape” from the insanity they create. Their “escape” is their substance of choice. The family typically does not have an escape. Third, by the time a family reaches out for help they are mentally, emotionally and spiritually exhausted.

What is the answer to all this? Recovery. Recovery for the entire family. How is this achieved? The family needs to learn a new perspective and approach to the problem. They need to learn about addiction, enabling, boundaries, natural consequences, and a new way of communicating. And then they need to take action. When a family learns these things, executes a plan of recovery and intervenes, that is where change begins. Remember: If nothing changes, then nothing changes. Something different and new needs to be done. Recovery and change take work. But it’s so worth the journey!

Please contact me, Joe Ortiz, to learn more. You can call me at 732-599-7817 or fill out the private contact form on this website. Thank you!

Joe Ortiz
Interventionist

Certified CRAFT Method
Certified Break Free Method
Cell:  732-599-7817

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CHOOSING AN ADDICTION TREATMENT CENTER

Choosing the right Substance Abuse Treatment Facility is very important when it comes to your loved one’s recovery from addiction. Matching your loved one’s needs with the most appropriate clinical care and treatment setting can make a very big difference in their long-term success.

Here are some considerations to keep in mind when conducting your search: Does the treatment center specialize in substance use disorders? Do they offer treatment for “other” mental disorders that may be contributing to your loved one’s addiction? Do they offer a family program? Are they JCAHO accredited? Do they accept your health insurance plan? What are their ratings/reviews on Google? These are just a few of the questions you will want answers to.

It may also be helpful to try and match the treatment facility with your loved one’s interests and personality. For example: If your loved one enjoys the outdoors you may want to choose a facility located in the mountains. If they love animals, you may want a program that offers equine therapy. The right setting may help your loved one feel better about being in treatment. Of course, none of this should ever be the first consideration. The most important factor is that the treatment facility offers exceptional clinical care. Sometimes, a person may be able to recover by being treated in an Outpatient Treatment setting. You still want to ask the same questions and look for answers that meet your loved one’s needs.

I hope this blog is helpful to you. If your family is struggling because of a loved one’s substance abuse problem and you are considering an Intervention, please call me at 732-599-7817 or email me at joeortizinterventionist@gmail.com for a free consultation.

Love and Light to you all!

Joe Ortiz
Interventionist
Certified CRAFT Method
Certified Break Free Method

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ADDICTION: FAMILY IN CRISIS

By the time a family reaches out to me for help they are exhausted and in real crisis. They’ve done everything they can and know to do in order to help their addicted loved one. Unfortunately, be it alcohol or drugs, the result is typically the same. The entire family is suffering emotionally, mentally, and even physically. Addiction causes a ripple effect and negatively impacts everyone in the family.

During the Intervention process my team and I teach families how to approach the problem in a new way. We provide them with a new perspective. We teach them to change their family dynamic in order to effect change in their addicted loved one. We show the family how to lovingly, yet firmly, start delivering a new message. A message that says, “We love you and we will support you in your efforts to recover, but we will no longer support your addiction.” That is just one aspect of what we do. A very important one. When the family dynamics and responses change, their loved one has no choice but to change. The family expresses, “We want change, we want Recovery, and we want you to Recover with us. Will you join us?” Boundaries are established and put into place and lovingly yet resolutely followed through on or if you prefer, enforced. When it comes to addiction, a family needs to be strengthened and empowered in order to regain control of their lives!

Addiction is a family disease. Recovery is the family solution. Love and Light to you all!

Joe Ortiz
Interventionist

Certified CRAFT Method
Certified Break Free Method
Cell:  732-599-7817

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HOLIDAYS AND RECOVERY

The holiday season is meant to be a joyous occasion that brings family and friends together. For those of us in recovery the holidays can also be a bit challenging. Especially in early recovery. Here are a few tips on how to protect your sobriety and enjoy the holidays: 1. Bring a sober friend with you to holiday gatherings for support if possible. 2. Carry a non-alcoholic drink with you during a holiday party. No one has to know that it’s not alcohol. 3. Always keep an eye on your drink so as not to pick up the wrong one. 4. Create an exit strategy. You can arrive a little late and leave a little early if you feel that you’re sobriety is in jeopardy. Say something like “My babysitter needs to get home early” or “I have an appointment at the crack of dawn.” 5. Avoid people and places that may trigger you whenever possible. 6. Get to AA or NA meetings if you practice the 12 Steps or to whatever support group you belong to.

In my own personal experience, I found some of these methods to be very helpful. Especially in my early recovery! Now 8 years later, I am free to partake in holiday gatherings without any desire for a mood or mind-altering substance. I hope that you find these tips to be useful! Happy Holidays!

Joe Ortiz
Interventionist
Certified CRAFT Method
Certified Break Free Method

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ADDICTION: STIGMA VS. FACTS

Many families and their loved ones struggle with the stigma of addiction. One definition of stigma is “a negative attitude or discrimination against someone based on a distinguishing characteristic such as mental illness, health condition, or disability.” Unfortunately, even in this day and age, there is still a large portion of our society that view addiction in this way. They see it as a disgrace or a moral weakness. It is neither. Stigma is nothing more than ignorance and ignorance is defined as “lack of knowledge or information.”

The fact of the matter is that addiction is a mental disorder. Period. The National Institute on Drug Abuse, a U.S. government medical agency, defines addiction as ” a chronic, relapsing disorder characterized by compulsive drug seeking, continued use despite harmful consequences, and long-lasting changes in the brain. It is considered both a complex brain disorder and a mental illness.” Folks, when we talk about addiction or alcoholism, we are talking about a Disease. Not disgrace or moral weakness.

I know it’s hard to let go of the feelings of shame, embarrassment and guilt that are often associated with this family disease. Take the time to educate and inform yourselves on what is true and what is not. The brain is an organ like any other organ in the body. Although incredibly complex, it too can be diseased. This brain disease involves complex interactions among brain circuits, genetics, the environment, and an individual’s life experiences including trauma.

Here is the good news! This is a treatable disease and it can be arrested. You and your loved ones can end the vicious cycle of addiction. Forget about the ignorance of others and the stigma out there and take action! You can do this! Be encouraged! Thousands upon thousands have recovered and you can too! There is help! There is Hope! If you or someone you love is struggling, I am here to help. Love and Light to you all!

Joe Ortiz
Interventionist
Certified CRAFT Method
Certified Break Free Method

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ADDICTION- A FAMILY DISEASE

It is said that addiction is a family disease. Why is that? Because a loved one’s active addiction affects everyone in the family. Whether mentally, spiritually, or even physically the people who love the addict are devastatingly affected. During my 9 years of active alcohol addiction, I didn’t mean to hurt my loved ones, but I did. My parents, my four children (whom I adore), my brother and his wife, my sister and my former wife all experienced pain, worry, anxiety, anger, sadness, and fear and you can add a lot more to that list. They suffered from my disease, or my mental disorder if you prefer, just as much as I did.

But here is the good news! Once I recovered from my disease, my family recovered with me. Addiction is a family disease but Recovery is a family solution. My sobriety date is June 5, 2013. On that day, by the Grace of God and the Love of my family, I was able to finally press the stop button and get off the elevator that was plunging me into the depths of hell. Since then, my relationships with the people I love the most on this earth, my family, have been restored. I cannot tell you how blessed I am. I have a fire in my heart to help other people like me and their families Recover. It’s why I do what I do. I hope that this short but heartfelt blog gives someone hope and encouragement. Change is possible. Take courage and take action. My love to you all.

Joe Ortiz
Interventionist
Certified CRAFT Method
Certified Break Free Method

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BREATH

If you feel overwhelmed, breathe. It will calm you and release the tension.

If you are worried about something coming up, or caught up in something that already happened, breathe. It will bring you back to the present.

If you are moving too fast, breathe. It will remind you to slow down.

Breathe, and enjoy each moment of this life.

Love and light to you all! 

Joe Ortiz
Interventionist
Certified CRAFT Method
Certified Break Free Method
Cell:  732-599-7817

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